Well, I can't believe how time has passed, but today I have been married to my man for 21 years! It seems like yesterday that we put our "Brady bunch" family together, had an "ours" baby, survived the teen years . . . and now, almost an empty nest. My, how things have changed.
Well, since it's my anniversary, this will be short and to the point. I have some marriage advice to share . . . not that I have all of the answers, but I have learned some things over the last 21 years. 1) Be kind when you don't feel like it. It's amazing how kindness disarms people . . . even your spouse! 2) Never give yourself an "out": in other words, don't say to your spouse or yourself, "Well, if we can't work this out, I guess we'll just call it quits." Ask yourself instead, "What part can I play in making this situation better or solving this problem?" Now, I'm not talking about tolerating abuse . . . that's a different story, and I'm grateful to say that I haven't dealt with that one. I'm just talking about normal, marital difficulties. 3) If you have children, set aside time with your spouse . . . "date night," if you will. Children who watch their parents enjoying and loving each other will not suffer from the time you take to be together. They will be blessed, and they will learn how to be a partner. 4) Finally . . . there are a million more but I need to cook an anniversary dinner . . . be a praying spouse. There is nothing . . . not one single thing . . . that you can do that has more power than prayer. I pray for my husband, thanking God for him and praying for strength for our marriage. I pray for problems to be solved. I pray for our time together to have value. Pray for your spouse and with your spouse . . . and when God is invited into the union, things will be very good!
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